Have you lost that loving feeling? Do you lack interest or concern about your man?

I don’t care.

Forget about it.

Oh well.

You vacillate from caring deeply to total apathy.


You neglect yourself. And you neglect your relationship.

If you find yourself avoiding, ignoring, escaping or hiding from your life and your marriage, you are probably caught in the pit of apathy.

Apathy is the suppression of all emotions.  It may be disguised as self care, R&R, taking a break. Yet we are not refueling ourselves. We are only hiding.

It seems easier to not care, and yet the cost is incredibly high.  Apathy leaves us feeling stuck and alone.

The opposite of being apathetic is being completely disciplined.

Discipline organizes, plans and cares for that which it values.  Indifference however is unorganized, unintentional, chaotic, messy and unpredictable.

Extreme discipline and care allow for growth, paving the way for freedom.  Discipline allows a relationship to flourish.

Discipline, intentionality and structure is  not trying to control your man and everything around you.  Rather, it says, “This relationship is important.  I care about it.  I find time and deliberate ways to honor my relationship.”

When you are unhappy and turn to apathy for relief, you may end up finding yourself in a cave of depression and isolation. 

But what if there were another way?

What if you sensed your unhappiness in the relationship and saw it as part of living in a fallen imperfect world?

​What if you used the unhappiness as a bridge to greater faith and deeper intimacy?

The truth is, you can change your life by taking responsibility.  Apathy says we have no control and are powerless. But we know this is a lie of the enemy.  II Timothy 1:7 tells  us, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. “

You are powerful my sister! Be loved, be bold and be disciplined as you care for this marriage you have been blessed with.