MAKE REPAIR ATTEMPTS. OFTEN.

For every couple, things go south from time to time.

According to Gottman Institute,  the difference between  the Masters and the Disasters of Marriage is Repair Attempts.

Super couples have fights.  They say regretful things.  They have bad days.

But what makes their marriage different is their ability to make repair attempts.

The attempts aren’t necessarily more skillful or better thought out, but they get through to their spouse.

They tap the breaks when they need. 

They hit pause.

They say I am sorry.

They offer grace and do-overs.

They know they don’t have to be perfect.  They just have to break the cycle of negativity, finding a way to de-escalate the tension.  Even if your disagreements with your man are very negative, you can discover the secret of bucking the system by offering the right kind of damage control.