You’re not yelling all the time—but you’re not connecting either.
You feel like roommates.
Conversations are tense or surface-level.
There’s a loneliness that comes from living under the same roof but feeling worlds apart.
Sometimes it seems easier to stay busy, avoid conflict, and pretend things are fine.
You tell yourself the issues aren’t that big, and maybe you should be able to work this out on your own.
But whether your struggle feels quiet and subtle, like a slow drift apart, or something more dramatic has shaken your foundation, like a betrayal or breakdown in trust, the ache is real.
You’re tired of circling the same arguments.
Tired of feeling misunderstood.
Tired of hoping something will shift only to land back in the same spot.
And you’re finally ready for something to change.
Stuck in a rut, feeling like you're never making progress?
Sound familiar?
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When communication has been strained for a long time, it feels safer to stay busy or distracted. The idea of “working on things” can feel overwhelming when you’re already emotionally drained.
overwhelm
People worry that opening up will lead to conflict, expose deeper issues, or confirm their worst fears that the relationship is beyond repair.
FEAR OF FAILURE
Many couples think needing help means they’re weak or that their issues aren’t “serious enough.” They minimize the pain or assume they should be able to figure it out without outside support.
Discouragment
Are you holding back because:
most couples wait six years ater problems begin to get help
Whether there’s been a betrayal or just years of hurt and misunderstanding, you want to heal the past and create something stronger going forward.
rebuild trust
You’re tired of the tension, silence, or blowups. You want to talk without it turning into a fight, or worse, shutting each other out.
break the cycle
You miss the emotional connection. You miss the warmth, laughter, and closeness that once came easily. You want to feel like partners again, not just people sharing a home.
feel close again
If you're ready to:
Why Wait ?
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- We begin with a thorough assessment so I can understand what’s working in your relationship and what isn’t. This includes the online Gottman Relationship Checkup and a 3-hour interview session (together and individually).
- After the assessment, I’ll share a clear summary of where your relationship stands, along with a personalized plan that outlines your goals and how we’ll move forward.
- If you choose to continue, coaching involves regular sessions with me, plus practical tools to support your growth between sessions.
This isn’t just endless processing—it’s focused, intentional work designed to help you make real progress.
Whether you’re dealing with years of disconnection or a recent breakdown in trust, this is a space to be seen, supported, and equipped for real change.
Private Couples Coaching Using The Gottman Method
Time to move into the NEW
Schedule
After reviewing your assessment results, we’ll meet for a 1-hour session where I’ll share a summary of your relationship strengths and growth areas. You’ll receive a personalized coaching plan with clear goals and recommendations for moving forward.
STEP 3: Feedback & Planning Session (1hour)
We’ll meet for a 3-hour session that includes time with you as a couple and individually. This gives me a deeper understanding of your relationship history, current dynamics, and key areas of concern.
STEP 2: Interview session (3 hours)
You’ll begin by completing the Gottman Relationship Checkup, a research-based online tool that each of you completes individually. It reveals strengths, challenges, and patterns in your relationship to help us understand where to focus.
STEP 1: Online relationship assessment (1 Hour)
The Relationship Assessment & Planning Package
Your first step forward
Many couples tell me they already feel more hopeful and united after simply deciding to begin the process. That decision alone sends a message: we’re on the same team, and we’re willing to grow together.
Here’s what you can expect to walk away with:
- Clarity about what’s working, what’s not, and what’s getting in the way of deeper connection
- A personalized plan for moving forward including actionable, research-backed, and tailored to your specific relationship
- Greater self-awareness as you slow down, reflect, and explore your own thoughts and emotions in the relationship
- New insight into your partner as you hear their experience and begin to understand each other more clearly
- Support from a professional who sees the whole picture, offering unbiased insight and a safe space to grow
- A feel for what it’s like to work with me before committing to an ongoing coaching process
The assessment itself is therapeutic. Just answering the questions, reflecting on your relationship, and having that first conversation creates space to pause, notice, and begin the work of transformation.
What you'll walk away with
Is it worth it?
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"We’re communicating in a way we never have before. We’ve learned how to slow down, REALLY listen, and stop reacting out of old patterns."
Happy Couple
SELAH & Mark
The remaining balance is due at your first session.
$450
payment two
To secure your appointment, a $450 deposit is due at the time of booking. Upon payment I will order your Gottman Checkup. The remaining balance is due at your first session.
$450
Payment ONE
Investment $900
The RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT & PLANNING PACKAGE
- Gottman Relationship Checkup (completed individually online),
- 3-hour interview session (together and individually)
- 1-hour feedback session
- Two Written Reports (Gottman Findings + Personalized Coaching Plan)
includes:
The final step of your assessment is a private feedback session, where I’ll share insights from your responses and walk you through a personalized plan for moving forward.
If you choose to continue, I’ll recommend a customized coaching package based on your goals and needs. Most couples begin with 90-minute sessions, meeting 2 to 4 times per month, along with support between sessions to help you stay on track.
While you’ll receive a clear package price, my standard rate is $150 per hour or $225 for a 90-minute session—just to give you a sense of the value included.
Couples coaching with me costs less than the average family vacation—or what many families spend on just one child’s competitive sport each year. And it’s exponentially less than the financial and emotional toll of unresolved conflict or divorce.
The truth is, not addressing what’s breaking down can cost you more over time—peace in your home, clarity about your future, and connection with the person you once chose.
The investment you make now will ripple into every part of your life: your home, your health, your legacy. I help you rebuild what matters most.
Wondering If You Can Afford it?
What Happens After the Assessment?
You’re ready to stop rehashing the same arguments and start building a new way forward.
You want practical tools and guidance from a seasoned expert with over 25 years of experience helping couples reconnect.
You’re both open to showing up, being honest, and doing the work even if it feels hard.
WE're a match if:
You value a structured process that challenges you and have a genuine desire to grow.
You want traditional therapy focused on past trauma rather than forward-focused coaching.
You’re hoping for quick fixes or someone to take sides.
One or both of you isn’t willing to participate or take ownership of your part in the relationship.
IT'S PROBABLY NOT A MATCH IF:
You’d be uncomfortable with any spiritual references woven into the materials or coaching process.
Is it a match?
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(We wanted) to add another layer of support to our marriage that we were re-building after some major life disruptions and transitions. We have gained effective strategies and methods for explaining ourselves in non-offensive ways which create opportunities to grow deeper in intimate connections.
"We have become more genuine and authentic spouses who seek to understand the other."
Happy Couple
Dwayne & cristal
The most valuable tool for us was the Talk Table because it made us both feel calm and not defensive and allowed us to freely communicate in a way that didn’t criticize the other person and allowed us to share our hidden dreams and meaning behind our wants, desires, frustrations.
“We have learned the importance of moving toward each other versus disconnecting.”
Happy Couple
andrea & Scott
Real Client Success
real couples. real change.
FAQ's
Not at all. I work with couples of various faith backgrounds (or none at all). While my perspective is rooted in Christian values, I never impose beliefs. If you’re open to a respectful, grace-filled process that may include occasional faith references, you’ll likely feel right at home.
That’s very common! One person often takes the lead in initiating help. As long as both of you are willing to show up and be open, we can make meaningful progress.
I’m a certified Gottman Couples Therapist with over 25 years of experience helping people navigate relationships. I use a proven, research-based approach and a structured process that supports you both during and between sessions. We start with a thorough assessment, so coaching begins with clarity and direction. Sessions are 90 minutes, giving us time to dig into real issues and find resolution—not just scratch the surface.
No, this is coaching. While I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor, this work is not clinical therapy. Coaching is action-oriented, and we work on building tools, understanding patterns, and moving toward your relationship goals and is not diagnostic in nature.
You’re not alone—and yes, there is hope. Many couples I work with have walked through betrayal, resentment, or emotional distance. If you’re both willing to engage the process, healing and rebuilding are possible.
Jill is certified with the world-renowned Gottman Institute, a trusted leader in relationship research for over 40 years.
25+ Years experience
Helping 500+ Couples Turn Toward Each Other Again
Building Trust